Rebecca Jane - A Survival Guide For Women Who Feel Stuck in Their Marriage - REVIEW
Rebecca Jane is a Yorkshire-based relationship therapist who has had extensive experience in helping women through problems in their relationships and marriages. As stated on her website, her method of counseling is based on support, empathy, and non-judgment, as well as recognizing that each woman and their situation is different. Rebecca, therefore, ensures that her therapy is tailored to the needs of each individual in order to provide the inner strength and self-worth needed for clients to overcome their respective marriage dilemmas.
Alongside her daytime profession, she has also self-published a book that covers a great wealth of knowledge acquired in her role as a therapist, as well as experiences in marriage she has encountered in her personal life. A Survival Guide For Women Who Feel Stuck in Their Marriage is a detailed run-through of some of the problems many of her female clients have faced in their own lives, as well as the treatments and mindsets needed to address and overcome these various issues. It is a concise and practical piece of work that offers credible advice that has the potential to turn the lives of its female readers around for the better.
Rebbeca Jane breaks her written guide down into chapters which highlight some of the crucial aspects of compiling a healthy marriage, and the ways that these can face difficulty between couples. These include attraction, boundaries, sex, blame and the important virtue of being true to one’s self. All of these subjects and more are explained in an easily digestible amount of detail in recognition of the fact that not everybody reading will be well-versed in the complex psychology of human beings. Jane uses her experience as a therapist, working in consideration towards the sensitive topics of her clients, to strike a balance of compassion and professionalism that is highly abundant in her written work.
She also cites quotes from other renowned names in the field of psychology and therapy such as Stephen R. Covey, Dr Nicole Lepera, and Mel Robbins, in order to clarify the teachings used in this book. A Survival Guide For Women Who Feel Stuck in Their Marriage is a compilation of studies handed down through generations of certified professionals, that the writer of this book has then cultivated in a friendly yet informative manner. It’s easy to imagine how relationship advice can be mishandled, misrepresented and used one-sidedly. However, any reader of this book whether they use it for self-help, or for academic interest, can quickly determine that Rebecca Jane knows her field, and understands intuitively how to apply those studies properly and with a trustworthy level of confidence.
Alongside these numerous insights and references are a number of quick practical exercises that readers can adopt to help tackle issues in their own spare time. Whilst the book’s writer professionally suggests that some problems need to be addressed by experts in other fields, there is much that struggling readers can take from this book that might assist them straight away. These include relaxation methods, mindful actions to carry out and questions to ask oneself in order to gain a clearer perspective. More importantly, it places great emphasis on the fact that those in tough marital situations are by no means alone or powerless to make positive changes.
One of the most fascinating aspects of this book and one which recurs across each of its chapters is how childhood experience plays a big part in the way adults view the world. The untrained reader can easily gather that this is the bedrock on which a lot of therapy is based and that adults facing challenges must re-evaluate how they see the world based on the exposure they had when they were young. As Rebecca Jane makes apparent, the exposure children faced at the hands of parents or guardians run in conjunction with various stigmas imposed on society at the time, a classic example being how generations of families in the 1980s and before, were given no real concept of mental health and would therefore inherently sweep emotional problems under the rug.
Another crucial element of the principles of Rebecca Jane’s work in this book is the importance of being non-judgemental. A Survival Guide For Women Who Feel Stuck in Their Marriage, is specifically tailored for female readers and clients but also goes into great depth in explaining certain psychological aspects of their male partners and the difficulties they face in their own mental health and insecurities. Once again it boils down to childhood experience, but also that men and women are chemically different in a number of ways that can make communication and understanding one another a challenge. Like the rest of this book, these topics are covered with a fine balance of sensitivity and expertise that ensures none are made to feel alienated and marginalised.
A Survival Guide For Women Who Feel Stuck in Their Marriage is a well-written and extremely warm guide to marital problems that deserves a great deal of credit for helping those with very specific problems. Its writer displays her well-honed skills as a relationship therapist in an easy-to-use yet vastly knowledgeable fashion and female readers suffering the problems depicted in this book are guaranteed to find a relatable and infinitely helpful voice in the form of Rebecca Jane. Whilst therapy and counselling is a long and complex process, it’s enlightening to know that books like this exist to make the process that much more personal and empathetic. This is a highly recommended title by all accounts.
To learn more about Rebecca Jane and to purchase a copy of A Survival Guide For Women Who Feel Stuck in Their Marriage, visit her website here.
